Part One: Becoming Aware

A 13 Week Foundational Self-Discovery Programme for Capable Women.

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“I was taught from a tiny age to mistrust my instincts, to shut down my emotions, to not follow my truth, to not listen to my heart and swallow my voice.

I was taught to be locked out of my own power, my own heart, and my own medicine.

I would stand silently outside the door of who I was, the door leading to my medicine garden, not daring to unlock it, waiting quietly for permission.

It is no wonder I now reclaim the key like a lost desert wanderer thirsty for water.

I opened the door with nervousness and fear, it was rusty and creaky, but boy was it beautiful!

No more will I be parted from the strength of what lies behind it, no more will I be locked away from who I am.

Find your key and open the door to your heart, your voice, your truth, your medicine, and your power.

Don’t wait for permission; it’s your door and no one else’s.”

Brigit Anna McNeill

WARNING:

This work is not for the faint-hearted. It can dramatically alter the way you perceive your life, your relationships, society, systems, and the planet. In re-discovering who you actually are as a human being, you may end up feeling like you need to radically change the way you are living. This might include things like deciding to break up with a long-term partner, quitting the job you've always had, taking your kids out of school, moving house, etc.​ Decisions like these may seem inconceivable right now, however, as we dig down deep into the truth of who you are, action may well need to be taken in order to live a more aligned and fulfilling life.

What If...

  • What if... you could believe that you and your needs matter instead of perpetually putting the needs of others before your own?

  • What if... you could speak your truth instead of keeping quiet for fear of ruffling feathers?

  • What if... you could fully trust yourself and your intuition instead of ignoring your gut instinct and later regretting it?

  • What if... you could feel worthy of all the joy, love, and good stuff you’ve created in your life instead of thinking ‘this is too good to be true, I don’t deserve this, I’m bound to f**k this up somehow!’?

  • What if... you truly loved yourself - all of you, your whole perfectly imperfect humanness?

What if... you became

The Leader of your own life?!

Here's the Stuckness...

Most Capable Women:

  • Are operating from belief and behaviour patterns which were set in early childhood to survive the home, school, social, and societal systems they grew up in

  • Have a need to be liked and accepted at all costs which is running their life for them

  • Feel they need to be ‘happy’ all the time and deem their more uncomfortable emotions to be ‘unacceptable’ so they push them down and ignore them

  • Are striving to be ‘high energy’ & ‘productive’ all the time which simply isn’t sustainable or natural

  • Have a ridiculously strong Inner Critic with little to no voice of Self-Compassion

  • Measure their worth by what they’ve done as opposed to feeling inherently worthy for who they are

These Capable Women are stuck in cycles of expending a lot of energy and not filling up the tank, which often leads to burn out, depression, illness, or injury. They desperately want to feel content, worthy, and at peace with themselves but have no idea where to even start!

BUT...

CHANGE IS POSSIBLE!!!

Apply now...

Enrolment now open!

The next round of Becoming Aware starts the week commencing Monday 7th February 2022 and runs until the week commencing Monday 25th April 2022.

To take advantage of the Earlybird Pricing, fill out an Application Form or make your Alignment Call Booking before 31st January 2022.

 

Please fill out an application form by clicking here.

Book a FREE 30 minute Alignment Call with me by clicking the button below...

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Hi, I'm Abbie...

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I’m the Founder of  Riding White Horses

&

the Creator of  The Art of Becoming & Belonging.

As a recovering Capable Woman, I’ve been where you are!

Up until I was about thirty years old, my chronic need to be liked and accepted at all costs was running my life for me.

​I struggled to say 'no', I had no idea what a boundary was, I was 'shoulding' all over myself incessantly, I prioritised the needs of others over my own, and spoke to myself so viciously I would never have dared speak to anyone else like it.

​I was anxious, regularly suffered with severe stomach cramps, frequently got sore throats/colds/coughs, and felt tired all the time. I had no idea how to handle any of the uncomfortable emotions I was forever stuffing down inside of me.

I hit rock bottom in 2014/2015 when I fell into a deep depression. Since then, I’ve been on a mission to discover who I actually am, what lights me up, and how I can move through times of adversity with more grace and ease.

I’ve trained as an Embodied Life Coach, an Equine Facilitated Learning Practitioner, and a Women’s Cycle Guide. I’ve read more books than you can imagine and regularly attend supplementary trainings, coaching, and psychotherapy.

 

The Art of Becoming & Belonging not only contains all the information I’ve received from my formal training, but my own knowledge gained through consistently looking back at and reflecting on my own life.

Everything I’ve ever experienced has contributed to where I am today and the same goes for you too!


The innate personal power and freedom that comes from fully understanding and accepting yourself is undeniable! 

Creating a deep self-awareness of who you are and where you’re at is the first step. 

And so, my Foundational Self-Discovery Programme Becoming Aware was born...

Who I work with...

I've found the women who see the best results from working with me often resonate with being any or all of the following:

  • Perfectionists

  • People-pleasers

  • Over-functioners

  • Covert control-freaks

  • 'Givers'

  • 'Good Girls'

  • The 'Strong One'/The 'Coper'

  • High Achievers

  • Fixers/rescuers/savers

  • Overly Independent

  • BUSY

These women often have core limiting self-beliefs of:

  • "I'm not good enough"

  • "I'm not worthy"

  • "I'm not deserving of..."

  • "I don't matter"

  • "Their needs are more important than mine"

  • "I'm only loveable when I look/behave like..."

  • "I should..."

  • "I've got to do this all by myself"

  • "I'm too much"

  • "I don't want to be a burden"

Why I'm different...

  • Transferable Skills

I'm teaching you skills that are transferable to every area of your life and that stand the test of time - the gift that keeps giving.

  • Holistic

My work covers the five key aspects of our human nature - the body, emotions, the mind, energy, & the soul. I also look at the ‘Macro’ or ‘Collective’ and how it interrelates with the ‘Micro’ or ‘Individual’

  • Trauma Informed

Everything has a place at the table. Nothing is ‘too much’ or ‘too big’ to bring.

I define trauma as anything that was too overwhelming for you to process at the time and so it got stuck in your system. This can be something like a car accident, sexual assault(s), or a parent/carer/teacher yelling at you when you were small.

  • High Touch

For the 1:1 and Group programme options I'll be jumping on a call with you EVERY. SINGLE. WEEK.

  • Small Number of Clients

I’m very aware of my own limitations in terms of time and energy. I want to give you the best possible service which is why I only take on an incredibly small number of clients (a max. of 8 women per group and only 2 1:1 clients per round of the programme) at any one time to ensure you each have my undivided attention - Quality over quantity!

  • Transformation Guaranteed

My 1:1 & Group programme structures provide you with education, support, and accountability - the recipe for success.

  • Sex Worker Friendly

I’ve worked as a stripper since 2008 and have gone deep into unpacking and releasing my own internalised Whorephobia; understanding the Whorearchy that exists between Sex Workers of different genres when they haven’t addressed their own internalised Whorephobia; and letting go of the shame projected onto us by society due to embedded, systemic, sexual shame.

I WANT THE BEST FOR YOU!

I want you to feel more like YOU...

more confident in who you are & what you're about;

more accepting of every aspect of yourself;

more compassionate & understanding for where you're at;

&

more expansive in your views of how you, your life, & your relationships could be.

How it works...

Step One: Return to the Body

Reconnecting to your body.

How/why that connection got lost in the first place.

 

I teach you the first Transferable Life Skill of the programme:

The Body Scan

Step Two: Emotional Agility

Transferable Life Skill Two:

How to feel and fully process each of your uncomfortable emotions

(instead of stuffing them down & ignoring them).

 

Emotions covered:

Fear, Vulnerability, Guilt, Shame,

Anger (including a Boundaries Masterclass), Agitation, Frustration, Disappointment,

Envy, Jealousy,

Sadness, Grief, Depression, & the Suicidal Urge.

Transferable Life Skill Three:

How to speak your truth clearly.

Step Three: The Mind

Limiting Beliefs & Behaviours

Transferable Life Skill Four:

Alchemising limiting beliefs & behaviours into that which feels soulfully aligned.

(Alchemy = the magical process of turning Lead into Gold)

 

Everything you need to know about habitual patterns of behaviour,

the limiting beliefs driving them,

how they’re keeping you stuck & small,

&

why they’re there in the first place.

Step Four: Energy

Cycles & Systems; Internal & External

Transferable Life Skill Five:

How to accept & work with your fluctuating energy levels

(instead of fighting against them).

 

Internal (the Micro/Individual):

Menstrual Cycle, Yin & Yang, Circadian Rhythm & Sleep, Alignment, Chakra System, & Needs.

External (the Macro/Collective):

Systems (family, social, societal, religious, etc), Seasons, Lunar Cycle.

Transferable Life Skill Six:

Understanding how the Micro & Macro interrelate.

Step Five: Soulful Sovereignty

Drawing all the knowledge from the previous steps together to develop...

Transferable Life Skill Seven:

Trusting yourself, others & the Universe.

Throughout the whole course you will be developing...

Transferable Life Skill Eight:

Deep self-reflection, self-responsibility, & self-agency as a means of creating lasting change.

Programme options...

1. Self-Guided:

  • Educational video content delivered to straight to your Inbox EVERY WEEK for 13 WEEKS

  • Access to a Private Facebook Community where I will be going LIVE each week to answer your programme questions

  • A framework to help you implement & embody your learnings from each week

  • A printable copy of the Emotional Message Chart

  • The option to buy a The Art of Becoming & Belonging journal for £10 inclusive of postage & packaging

  • The option to book a maximum of  three 1:1 COACHING CALLS with Abbie at 15% off for the duration of the programme

  • LIFETIME ACCESS to the educational video content

Price: £333 

Payment Plan options available on request.

2. Group (max. group size of 8 women):

Everything in the Self-Guided option PLUS...

  • 2 hours of Group Coaching with Abbie via Zoom EVERY SINGLE WEEK

  • 1 hour of 1:1 Coaching via Zoom to use within the programme's duration

  • BONUS audio file of The Body Scan

  • Complementary The Art of Becoming & Belonging journal as part of your Self-Care Ritual GIFT PACK

Price: Earlybird £888 / Regular £1111

Payment Plan options available on request.

3. One to One (only 2 spots available in each round):

  • 1 hour of One to One Coaching with Abbie via Zoom EVERY SINGLE WEEK

PLUS everything in the Self-Guided & Group options.

Price: Earlybird £1222 / Regular £1444

Payment Plan options available on request.

Book a call...

To help you figure out which option is going to be the most beneficial & realistic for you at this time, please book a FREE 30 minute Alignment Call with me by clicking the button below:

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Apply now...

Enrolment now open!

The next round of Becoming Aware starts the week commencing Monday 7th February 2022 and runs until the week commencing Monday 25th April 2022.

To take advantage of the Earlybird Pricing, fill out an Application Form or make your Alignment Call Booking before 31st January 2022.

 

Please fill out an application form by clicking here.

Book a FREE 30 minute Alignment Call with me by clicking the button below...

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Testimonials...

Due to the confidential nature of my work, all testimonials I publish are kept anonymous so as to respect the privacy of my clients.

"My main challenges starting this course were a lack of self worth, anxiety, and not knowing how to deal with the new emotions I was experiencing. 

 

My biggest takeaways from this course are learning my self worth and also learning that I’m not weak. I used to think I was weak for so many reasons and if I didn’t soldier on people would think less of me. How wrong I was. I now know that I’m strong for stopping and that rest is productive. 

I would hands down recommend this course to anyone. No one tells you how hard this work will be and Abbie holds you through it all. I cried and expressed myself knowing it was a safe space to do so. The wealth of knowledge that is put out before you is just incredible. Every week is tailored beautifully and I’ve learnt so much. I’ve come away a stronger woman and a woman that will put herself first now instead of not listening to her body and mind. I’ll come back to this course again and again for the rest of my life.

 

Everyone needs an Abbie by their side to help them navigate through this crazy world."

"Sometimes you need someone to hold space for parts of you that you haven’t visited much or didn’t know how to support yourself with.  Perhaps a topic you can’t speak about with ease, perhaps the shadows within that need to speak so as to resolve and create a better relationship with yourself and who you are, or areas of your life you might find difficult to navigate. 

 

Abbie helps you do exactly that.

 

She helps you become freer within the narratives that you may have been carrying unconsciously and therefore understand your space and others' much better. 

 

She does valuable work. I would recommend doing internal work especially with what’s mentioned as you will see and find changes within you that make you see how much more to life there is to enjoy by seeing the world through your eyes and therefore living your truth and every moment more fruitfully.

 

A highly recommended program for those that want to live in the joy of their authenticity, setting their truth free by excavating and  unearthing the conditioned self by developing a high level of self awareness so as to access a zest for life that is aligned with their true self."

"You made me feel at ease to release the emotions that needed releasing. I have never opened up properly to anyone but your style of work suits me and I can relate, feeling one hundred percent safe to tell you anything.

I am quite a confident person but learnt a lot about myself with you. I was happy to try new things & felt a little embarrassed but I'm only human (which I also learnt from you - that it's OK to be!)"

"When I started, I had no idea where I was or what I even wanted to achieve. I was lost, looking for a way forward, & couldn't communicate about how I felt.

In just a few sessions I began to feel I could share my experiences, knowing they would be accepted with care & compassion.

 

I look forward to sharing elements of my life that I have kept hidden, knowing there's a space being held and I'm being accepted for who I am & what I'm bringing to the sessions."

"Abbie is an amazing person to know and the work she does is a really good tool for opening your mind, body, and soul. It's a natural way to be more open with yourself...

 

I'm not going to say it's easy...but I was made to feel totally at ease.

 

People walk into your life for a reason, let Abbie be that reason. Her work really helps."

Apply now...

Enrolment now open!

The next round of Becoming Aware starts the week commencing Monday 7th February 2022 and runs until the week commencing Monday 25th April 2022.

To take advantage of the Earlybird Pricing, fill out an Application Form or make your Alignment Call Booking before 31st January 2022.

 

Please fill out an application form by clicking here.

 

Book a FREE 30 minute Alignment Call with me by clicking the button below...

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WARNING:

This work is not for the faint-hearted. It can dramatically alter the way you perceive your life, your relationships, society, systems, and the planet. In re-discovering who you actually are as a human being, you may end up feeling like you need to radically change the way you are living. This might include things like deciding to break up with a long-term partner, quitting the job you've always had, taking your kids out of school, moving house, etc.​ Decisions like these may seem inconceivable right now, however, as we dig down deep into the truth of who you are, action may well need to be taken in order to live a more aligned and fulfilling life.