I'm Abbie Tagney and I'm the founder of Riding White Horses.
I am a Sovereignty & Liberation Coach and recovering Capable Woman.
Up until I was about thirty years old, my chronic need to be liked and accepted at all costs was running my life for me.
I struggled to say 'no', I had no idea what a boundary was, I was 'shoulding' all over myself incessantly, I prioritised the needs of others over my own, and spoke to myself so viciously I would never have dared speak to anyone else like it.
I was anxious, regularly suffered with severe stomach cramps, frequently got sore throats/colds/coughs, and felt tired all the time.
I had no idea how to handle any of the uncomfortable emotions I was forever stuffing down inside of me.
In attempts to liberate myself from this internal whirlpool of unprocessed emotion and low self-worth, I tried running away by travelling and moving house a lot, and I would distract/numb myself with booze, drugs, sex, food - all under the guise of living 'wild & free' of course.
But wherever you go, there you are! And continually chasing highs inevitably means the lows will catch up to you.
From the outside looking in I was confident, outgoing, capable, and living my best life! And in some ways, I was...
Nobody could see how furiously I was paddling just trying to keep my head above the increasingly turbulent waters of my inner world. And heaven forbid I actually let on to anybody that I was struggling in case my 'Capable Woman' status became jeopardised...
In fact, I was SO good at wearing the mask of capability, I even had myself fooled! I mean, I'd been performing capability and confidence outwardly whilst feeling internally 'not good enough' for my whole life. I was an absolute pro!
I was constantly pushing myself out into the world, out of my comfort zone, outwards with my time & effort. All this energy going OUT and never feeling it come back IN.
Depression hit. Or, more accurately, burnout & emptiness. I simply couldn't do it any more. I had no energy left. And thus began my path to TRUE liberation and sovereignty - wild & free from the inside out.
It is now my life's work to support the liberation process of fellow Capable Women.
I see you, I am you, and I can't wait to work with you!
The Capable Woman is exactly that - capable.
She is the adult version of the Good Girl.
She shows up; she gets shit done; she is smiley, polite, kind, empathetic.
From the outside looking in she appears happy. She's easy to be around, isn't any trouble, and doesn't like to make a fuss.
Go a little deeper and she is paddling furiously, trying to keep herself afloat.
She often feels like she is drowning in a sea of responsibility and obligation.
She longs to be liked and accepted, so she pleases people by doing as they ask, at considerable cost to her own experience. This breeds an underlying sense of resentment, which she then feels guilty about.
She has often completely lost touch with who she actually is, she's spent so long doing all the things she 'should' do.
She cycles through periods where she's super busy, on top, keeping up with all her many commitments, and then inevitably ends up becoming run down, poorly, injured, burnt out, or depressed.
She holds herself to impossibly high standards and criticises herself relentlessly when she can't meet them.
Where she has compassion for others, she lacks compassion for herself.
Where she shows up and is supportive of those around her, she has forgotten how to support herself.
Dear Capable Woman,
I see you!
I see you being weighed down by the burden of your responsibilities and obligations.
I see you trapped behind the bars of your cage made from beliefs of how you think you 'should' be.
I see you scrambling to be a good mum, a good worker, a good partner, a good friend, a good daughter, and feeling like you're no good at all.
I see you feeling overwhelmed by life, like you're on a runaway train, hurtling towards an unknown destination, powerless to do anything to stop it, knowing that, inevitably, it will crash. It always does.
What if I told you it didn't have to be this way?
That you hold within you the power to take back the reins of your own life?
That you can set yourself free?
All you need are the keys...
The keys to unlock this hidden well of innate knowledge...
The keys to your liberation!
Let me teach you the ways of the keys...
If this is resonating for you and you're ready to commit to making some much needed change in your life, I'd love to work with you!
Please get in touch by clicking here to arrange a free, no obligations Alignment call via Zoom, where we can discuss your needs further and you can get a feel for the way in which I work.
I look forward to hearing from you!
My Training Background
Equine Facilitated Learning
The Medicine Horse Way system forms the backbone of everything I now offer.
Equine Facilitated Learning is a process by which humans can learn more about themselves through a structured intervention with horses.
Horses are incredibly adept at helping us uncover our true emotions and experiences. This activates our Authentic Self (who we are at the very core of our being - True Self).
This body of work teaches us how to:
- listen to our body's messages,
- really feel our emotions and understand that they are just offering us information,
- explore limiting beliefs and their accompanying behaviours (where they come from, how they've helped us in the past),
- how to find authentic beliefs that are in alignment with our True Self.
Body-Centred Coaching (Training: Systems and Constellations with Jenny MacKewn,)
This embodied approach to coaching enables me to cut straight to the heart of any matter. The techniques used are based on the work of Bert Hellinger and have consistently left my clients blown away by the amount of clarity they receive.
Each one of us is a part of many systems - our family system, work system, marriage/partnership system, friendship system, societal system, religious system etc. The challenges we face in life can also be broken down into a system of key elements, for example - us (the challenge/issue holder), a block, our future, and support/help. By arranging these elements into a map of how they're relating to each other currently, we can start to explore where any possible dysfunction or disharmony lies.
Discovering this work has been absolutely magical! There is no other word to describe it...
Women's Cycle Guide
This work has been fundamental to increasing my own level of self-awareness around my monthly hormone cycle and energy levels.
I love teaching this work!
It is empowering, inspiring, and transformational.
The Story - What's in a name?
Riding White Horses
In August 2016, I had the pleasure of road tripping from L.A., California, all the way out to Santa Rosa, New Mexico and back again. I was away for three blissful weeks. As part of my adventure I booked a week long stay at Creek Ranch over in the East of New Mexico. Doing a ranch stay had been a long standing dream of mine. There’s something about the cowboys, the horses, and the great outdoors that represents true freedom to me.
Having spent the night in Roswell, eating a ‘make your own’ waffle for breakfast in the motel and then perusing the museum to see whether I believed if aliens really had landed there in 1947, I set off in my rental car once again for Creek Ranch.
As I was driving up a steep, narrow, windy road, I had a light bulb moment. An epiphany. A sudden realisation. I could open up a centre where people could pay to stay and live my lifestyle with me for a bit! Yes! An idea was born. It wasn’t a new concept, it was a thought that I’d toyed with before but had always dismissed because I couldn’t figure out how it would work, but this time...
This time it was different. I had extreme mental clarity. It’s amazing what a couple of weeks away can do for your creative mind! My mission was clear. I would create a sanctuary that encompassed all of the things I feel most passionately about; helping people, yoga, dance, horses, surfing, nature, good food and sustainable community living.
I came home with a spring in my step. I was refreshed, rejuvenated, and had a sense of motivation like I’d never had before.
With this big concept in mind, I started to think of what my retreat centre might be called. The name Riding White Horses is definitely an ode to my childhood. There were multiple inspirations - the first pony I ever rode on was a little white pony called Trigger, the crests of the waves described and depicted as white horses in Ann Turnbull’s book The Sand Horse (a favourite bedtime story), the song ‘She’ll Be Coming Round the Mountain’, playing in the sea until my lips went purple and my teeth chattered, the sense of freedom I feel when I see an image of someone riding a horse along a beach or of a surfer riding a wave, the incredible Guinness advert with the surfers and the horses - ‘good things come to those who wait’, my fascination with unicorns and Pegasus, knights, princesses and fairy tales. All these things, this life long accumulation of experiences, stories, and beliefs, all contributed to the creation of the Riding White Horses name.
Two years on, and at one of the Equine Facilitated Learning courses I was attending, I started to read Linda Kohanov’s chapter in the Way of the Horse about The Messenger (Pegasus) - one of the horse archetypes depicted in the cards that accompany her book.
The Messenger by Kim McElroy
This is what it said:
‘With or without wings, the white horse is universally depicted as a messenger of wisdom, creativity, healing, and redemption...
Epona, the Celtic goddess of fertility and transformation, often appeared as a luminous white mare. Some legends also tell of Druid priests employing white horses as oracles. Through a series of simple ritualistic movements, these sacred steeds would answer yes or no to questions about everything from battle strategies to planting times and lovers’ quarrels...
On a wider scale, this archetype echoes the myth of Pegasus, a messenger from the gods and a loyal companion to the Muses, capable of jump-starting artistic talent and carrying those who lived heroically to the stars. Engaging with the white-winged horse, inviting him to fly through your imagination, helps you access a divine source of wisdom and inspiration, allowing you to find deeper meaning and purpose in your own earthly journey. Ride this horse, become him for a while, and you’ll begin to create your life as the work of art it was meant to be.’
So, what’s in a name? Well, a lot apparently!
Call it divine intervention, inspiration, wisdom, or purpose - may I ride this white horse to fruition...